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Old 10-14-2005, 01:56 PM   #9 (permalink)
Spoomonkey
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Default Re: Help Cool her Jets...Please!

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Originally Posted by L&R
I'm getting older and don't want to "waste" anymore time on losers.
Being monogamous doesn't neccessarily make a guy a loser...



The truth is, many women find out if their men are control freaks without ever getting into the lifestyle - or even advertising for it on the internet.

You've been together five months - what does your gut tell you? You don't need swinging to tell you what sort of guy he is.

At 24, you aren't exactly looking at a wasted life. If what you have with becomes long term, then you have a LONG life ahead of you with this "non-loser." If it doesn't happen that way, there is plenty of time for you to find your soulmate. I'm not saying he is or isn't, but it seems to me like you aren't exactly sure. Before I ventured into swinging, I do my best to nail that down. A strong, trusting relationship is more important even than having workable parts.

I am not trying to throw cold water on your enthusiasm to get into the lifestyle, but from what you're telling me, I am not sure your reasoning is right. You have the cart before the horse, so to speak.

And if I can call you "L", then you can most certainly call me "Spoo"

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