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bellerophon · 10-14-2005, 11:46 AM

Hi!
My wife and I have just begun to explore getting involved in this and are experiencing the emotions I must imagine are usual: Excitement, nervous, fear of jealosy, arousal...

We have been talking a while and both seem to be on the same page... we are going to go slow, talk a lot and make sure we really have similar expectations, but we are both ultimately interested in full swap.

My question is, it seems most couples I read online are mainly into same room sex. While that may be something we eventually get into if it turns out a turn on for us, both of us would prefer a little couples play and then venturing off to seperate rooms. Starting off, it seems like a little much to be able to see your wife or husband, err... "putting it" to someone else right in front of you.

I read a lot of couples get turned on by watching their spouse getting it from another person, but we're not so sure we will be (foreplay yes, actual sex - not sure). Also, I suppose we are both being a bit selfish... we do want to do this as a couple but we also want our own seperate experience. Is that unusual? Especially for beginners?

And will we have difficulty finding other couples willing to seperate once it gets to real action?

I know ultimately we will have to decide for ourselves, but I am curious if others have had success or if the chances for jealosy are higher because you are in seperate rooms (as of right now, we really do not think it will be a problem).

Thanks for your thoughts and we have learned a lot reading the great posts on this board!

10-14-2005, 11:46 AM	#1 (permalink)
bellerophon Registered Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Your typical newbie!	Same room, separate rooms? Hi! My wife and I have just begun to explore getting involved in this and are experiencing the emotions I must imagine are usual: Excitement, nervous, fear of jealosy, arousal... We have been talking a while and both seem to be on the same page... we are going to go slow, talk a lot and make sure we really have similar expectations, but we are both ultimately interested in full swap. My question is, it seems most couples I read online are mainly into same room sex. While that may be something we eventually get into if it turns out a turn on for us, both of us would prefer a little couples play and then venturing off to seperate rooms. Starting off, it seems like a little much to be able to see your wife or husband, err... "putting it" to someone else right in front of you. I read a lot of couples get turned on by watching their spouse getting it from another person, but we're not so sure we will be (foreplay yes, actual sex - not sure). Also, I suppose we are both being a bit selfish... we do want to do this as a couple but we also want our own seperate experience. Is that unusual? Especially for beginners? And will we have difficulty finding other couples willing to seperate once it gets to real action? I know ultimately we will have to decide for ourselves, but I am curious if others have had success or if the chances for jealosy are higher because you are in seperate rooms (as of right now, we really do not think it will be a problem). Thanks for your thoughts and we have learned a lot reading the great posts on this board!