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Old 10-14-2005, 09:28 AM   #5 (permalink)
Spoomonkey
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Default Re: Help Cool her Jets...Please!

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Originally Posted by VegasLee
Her wanting to find out how many want to fuck her. Sounds like to many games being played here.
You definitely don't want to wet your line without wanting to catch any fish. Don't get started until you are ready to move forward - you could kill your chances down the road.

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Originally Posted by Intuition897
And when you do decide to try swinging, I WOULD recommend a more experienced couple.
Experienced couples are also likely to be a little more patient and understanding. Our first couple was quite experienced and wonderfully patient with us. It made the transition into the lifestyle very easy. After they had "introduced us" we were far more "experienced" than many of the couples we met - and were a lot better prepared for the experiences we had.

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Originally Posted by L&R
So you're telling me R's right?
No - we are telling you he seems to have a pretty good bead on where HE is. Neither of you are on the same page - it could be because as a couple you are both very "new" to each other. You two may have great communication skills, but the skills of reaching agreements may be lacking - or the level of consideration for each other's feelings may not be fully developed.

The base "rule" when getting into the lifestyle is to go at the speed of the slowest runner. If R is not ready, then you have to wait for him to catch up. If that never happens, then it is not this forum that has killed it altogether. But, simply encouraging you guys to "forge ahead" could damage your relationship.

My question for you, L, is this: What is more important to you, swinging or your relationship with R?

Answer that, and you have your answer to many questions.

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