[robel12550]

For what it's worth, here's another male's 0.0002 cents. (Damn inflation!)

J&K's response pretty much sums it up. And even in health class, you should have been told that no male can "command" an erection to save their lives. (If only we could be so cursed.) The reply about three little words (Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis) is humorous, but misleading. The drug disclaimers even state that they aren't guarantees for an erection.

Alchol has sometimes even given me much longer lasting erections than the ED drugs. It becomes very confusing from a male point of view as to what will or won't work.

To somewhat recap (and forgive me if I don't get the details correct, but this it the impression I was left with), you mentioned that you met these folks in a situation where you effectively just met up with them. Kind of a "Hi, how are you? Do we think everyone is compatible? OK, let's go play.) In a situation like that, they might have discounted the aspect that play might have been involved later in the evening and lost track of their drinks. It might be better to meet and greet then schedule a play meeting at another time where drinking can be minimized. That is, if that's the real reason for the problem.

Another option you might consider is that since your husband might have had some nice times, maybe you reduce the odds of four people being at the top of their sexual form by finding a couple "single" guys for you to have some fun with while your husband watches or helps out. Getting three people on the same playing field is at least a little easier than making sure all four are having an equally fun experience. Not that you won't run into the same problem in that scenario, but it might improve your odds a little. And it might give you an ego boost too. It might be adviseable to find some swingers who can identify some single guys they've had very good experiences with which could also improve your odds. (In fact, there's one long forum response on this site (which I'll find for you if so interested) where the husband had a really fun time taking pictures and videos of a guy who really satisfied his wife. Don't know if that single guy is in your regional area, but at least he's a fairly proven specimen.)

Don't forget, those men who couldn't satisfy you most likely feel as badly about the situation as you since they didn't really enjoy themselves either. No guy I know of wouldn't like to take a twenty-something lady like you for a nice LONG ride throughout the night. (Checked your public profile for some information and from it I wouldn't mind a shot myself. (In other words, from your stats, you sound like a nice physical being to have some fun with.) Though I have a feeling your "eyes" are green and not your "hair". Just a little typo there, I suspect.) In fact, if only for their ego, they most surely would have like to stay as hard as a steel rod for at least a couple hours to make sure they tried every position with you.

Also remember that, just like winning the lottery, the more you attempt it, the higher the probability of success. (OK, forget the lottery since you can easiily go broke, but as long as you don't have to keep shelling out for the whole motel room cost, you probably won't go broke from swinging.) And even though you didn't get the home run you were hoping for, didn't you at least get a little thrill over showing your body off and having them gawk at it? And how about whatever attention they were able to provide to you? Maybe you at least got to second base. Even the great Babe Ruth didn't bat 1000. (Oh, these damn sports metaphors we men use.)

Hope some of this was helpful to a degree. Keep us informed on how things go.

Rob