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Old 10-12-2005, 04:44 PM   #25 (permalink)
Carol_Danny
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Default Re: DP, Couples, & The Disappearing Single Male

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Originally Posted by LikeMinds321
Do you think many guys like the idea of DP, but when it comes down to finally meeting they chicken out because they have little experience in this area or lack the comfort level required for it?
I don't even think the idea of DP is part of the problem. The only problem we really have had with single men is not showing up for a meeting! We have discussed this with many people and the consensus is that these guys are just on-line for the fantasy of it all, but then when that fantasy is about to become reality, they chicken out. They get their own perverse pleasure with the fantasy, but cannot face the reality when it comes time.

We no longer go out of our way to meet single men. We do encourage them to meet us, but on our terms. We go for drinks every Friday for a couple of hours, and meet up with a group of friends. The friends are split 50/50 as to Swingers and non-Swingers. We now tell guys if they want to meet to show up on Friday and chat. If they show up and we hit it off, we may take things further. But if they do not show up, we haven't lost our time

We have also met many couples for the first time on these same Friday get-togethers. Since it is a neighbourhood pub, it is very no-pressure, and many couples enjoy that for a first meeting. Many of those same couples have also become regulars on Fridays with us

Carol xoxoxo
& Danny
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