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Originally Posted by BodyScape02 gee we share current pet peeves...lol
Welcome to the spotlight txduo2000...
I have a few questions for you. I love your posts and the intelligent thought behind many of them and the way you word things... my compliments...and let me also say, it will great to learn more about you via this spotlight interview. We seem to share the same current biggest pet peeve... 
With respect
Ms. Bodyscape
Here we go…lol
You have your actual photo as your avatar! We can see your beautiful face, and that is way more brave than we are. So…
How did you get so brave, and does it ever worry you that someone who knows you will see it?
Are you sexier in your thirties than you were in your twenties? (If yes, why so?)
What do you look for in a possible playmate? (Describe him/her)
Where do you look for playmates?.... And …Where do you most often find playmates?
What would be a deal killer for you and the Mr. (aside from married and cheating posing as single)?
How did you come to this lifestyle?
How did you find out about SB?
What do you think is the best thing about the board and the worst?
And now the most trite questions ever...
What are your top 3 favorite movies and books?
What do you wear to bed (other than a big smile if it’s a threesome night?  ? |
Thank you for the compliments, Bodyscape! I have definitely enjoyed your being on the boards as of late and find that we share many traits/beliefs/commonalities. I am confused on the avatar deal though????
My avatar is of two smilies with a heart in the middle. I am afraid I do not resemble either one in real life.
My brevity probably comes from, again, my being a Scorpio. Actually, I am VERY concerned with what others think of me, though I am continually trying to change that about myself. Perhaps that is why I don't mind my face being shown. All our profile pics on Swing Lifestyle are of our faces, all g-rated. None of our mainstream friends are swingers or even remotely interested. We have a very busy family life, so truth be told, we don't have a large circle of friends, so I am not too worried about one of our mainstream friends seeing us on these sites. I do not currently work outside the home, so I have no co-workers to fear, and my husband's boss and his wife are former swingers so there is no issue there. Other than that, I guess my feeling is that if someone were to see me on these sites, that means THEY are perusing them themselves, so what do I have to answer to that they would not?
I feel like I am much sexier in my thirties than in my twenties. The reason being that I believe that sexuality is a never-ending, continually evolving trait. Most of us were raised in a society that labels all things sexual as "dirty" or if not dirty, then definitely private, so many of us grew up with very conservative views. And it is only with time, exposure, education, and experiences are our sexualities allowed to blossom and grow.
Overall, in potential playmates, I look for respect. That truly, in my opinion, is the underlying most important factor in ANY type of relationship, be it friendship, marriage, or play partners. If people are self-respecting and respecting of their existing partner, odds are they will be respecting to others they meet. Since my preference is really for single men (YOUNGER single men ... lol), then respect is of the utmost importance. They cannot view swinging with couples as an outlet for their pent up sexual energies alone .... they must be able to see it as a cohesive and mutually satisfying exchange. They must have a very deep understanding of why it is couples will occasionally seek out single men, and that is that the woman is not looking for something her husband can't give her. I will say that we have been pretty lucky in this regard. In fact, I do not like overtly sexually-charged inuendo in discussion or chat, and I have found that married men, operating within a couple, are THE most lecherous we have come across. In couples, my preference is that the woman is not bi, because I am not, but if she is, she be tolerant and accepting of the fact that I am not. I do not want or need anyone to try to convert me.
We are listed on both Swing Lifestyle and swingers date club, though our successes have generally occurred in on-premise/house party environments.
A deal killer for us is definitely when a male, single or married and part of a couple, attempts to make first contact with me. Primarily because we have put my husband in charge of weeding out the fakes and the phonies and it is a requirement that men talk to him first to make sure that they aren't cheating or lecherous or only trying to get at me, which is so very common, unfortunately.
It's a long story as to how we came to the lifestyle, and I am sure it is in one of my past postings/threads here, but I will make it succinct and simply say that my husband had dabbled in it a bit with his ex-wife. They never came full-circle into the lifestyle, because she was one of those women (they are out there) who basically wanted to DO while he could do nothing, and when situations arose where women showed their attraction to him, she would go ballistic. So he introduced it to me, slowly because I was shocked at first, and because I am a very experimental and gregarious kind of girl, I agreed to go to some off-premise clubs. Very intimidating at first, but gradually got into it, through sexy talk during love-making, browsing websites, going to clubs, experimenting. We hit some bumps along the way, but I am proud to say that I never expected the type of "lifestyle" that his ex-wife expected. I just couldn't participate and deny him the same opportunities.
I stumbled upon SB through Swing Lifestyle, I think. I don't really even remember anymore, actually. lol Or perhaps it was while snooping through some of my husband's computer history stuff from when we were separated late last year/early this year. Not that he is a member, but he was swinging with a girl he was seeing during our separation and I think maybe I stumbled upon it that way. Like I said, I can't really remember. But I am glad I found it, regardless.
I think the best thing about the boards is a true feeling of friendship with those who I have not really "met" ... people actually get to know each other, respect each other and feel for each other and they may live 2000 miles away from each other and never lay eyes on one another in person. The worst, I would have to say, would probably be those who come on for just a very short period of time, seem to only be there to stir up controversy and get everyone riled up, then take off. Hey, I am all for controversy every once in awhile. Just stick around to see what comes next is all I am saying!
Ok, top three favorite movies and books:
Movies:
Imitation of Life
Hope Floats
Breakfast Club
Books: (this one is hard because I love to read and own thousands of books)
To Kill A Mockingbird
Anything by Ann Rule
Anything by Patricia Cornwell
I am not terribly sexy at bedtime, I am afraid.
I wear an oversized t-shirt and boxer shorts, or pajama pants if it's cold.