[txduo2000]

It pretty much boils down to a "whatever works for you/us" mentality. I don't think there's necessarily a right or wrong way of handling any one situation. You deal with it the best you can whatever arises.

For us, we can go both ways ... we can do the one-nighter and we can do the relationship. We aren't worried about "falling in love" because in both our views, falling in love with play partners is really only possible if there is something lacking in your own relationship. And if there is something lacking in your own relationship, then swinging is not an appropriate activity. So a longer term relationship would not be out of the realm of possibilities for us, though it has never presented itself as an option. Most of the time, the people we meet are generally like us ... not really looking for an exclusive type relationship and they have different plans at any coming weekend. That doesn't constitute a rejection to us; just a similarity of attitudes and an understanding from our point of view.

Now we do like the one-nighters just because of the anonymous thrill of it and the no obligation or expectation mentality for all concerned. I think most people who go to on-premise parties, as we do, do not expect to necessarily find someone that they will be in a long-term relationship with. It's a party atmosphere and those who want to party, party; those who don't simply mingle and/or watch.

We find it difficult to search and find compatible couples anyway. It's hard enough trying to find two people who mesh, let alone four, so that's why the party atmosphere has been one that has worked better for us.