The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Problem with expectations of others at the club

b&J69 · 10-11-2005, 05:50 PM

Greetings all, we hae been in the lifestyle for almost 6 years and of course it has been a learning experience. Our latest dilemma is as follows.
We were at our favorite on premise club, wound up in a group thing. One of the couples that were involved neither of us really have any chemistry with, we were in that situation and had a decent buzz on and wound up playing with them anyway. In normal circumstances, we would not have gone there. They are nice people and all that, but they are just not our type. Now whenever we see them at the club, they seem to think repeat performances are the norm and expected. He especially pounces on the Ms when he sees her. We like them and think they are nice people, we just don't want to go there again and don't want to offend them. But we want nothing more than socializing. How the heck do we let them know without offending them? It's enough that we have mostly been avoiding going back there.

10-11-2005, 05:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
b&J69 Active Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 12 Location: Ft Lauderdale, Fl	Problem with expectations of others at the club Greetings all, we hae been in the lifestyle for almost 6 years and of course it has been a learning experience. Our latest dilemma is as follows. We were at our favorite on premise club, wound up in a group thing. One of the couples that were involved neither of us really have any chemistry with, we were in that situation and had a decent buzz on and wound up playing with them anyway. In normal circumstances, we would not have gone there. They are nice people and all that, but they are just not our type. Now whenever we see them at the club, they seem to think repeat performances are the norm and expected. He especially pounces on the Ms when he sees her. We like them and think they are nice people, we just don't want to go there again and don't want to offend them. But we want nothing more than socializing. How the heck do we let them know without offending them? It's enough that we have mostly been avoiding going back there.