I would be covered in bracelets
I never liked pigeon holing Lifestyle choices since very few people are actually only one way. Most swingers we know could be considered both soft and hard, and in between. It depends on the mood of the evening and the people you are with. If someone asked me to classify my preference at the beginning of an evening, I would not know what to say. Our preferences change over time, and month to month we feel like doing different things.
Carol xoxoxo