[Sweet_Candy]

Joplin,

We, too, have struck out three times. They weren't all three the same situation as you, but the second and third were. The guys acted "not that into me (Candy)". Sweet was really cool about that and moved on with me.

We are sorry your husband didn't notice your feelings that third time. Men can get like that sometimes. That would be a learning point to move forward with.

From what we understand, it can take far more attempts than three before you finally have that wonderful experience. We, too, still have yet to get there, having learned from the experiences.

We continue to develop more prospects; we are moving forward. The prospects seem better than the originals because we know better.

The reasons the men failed to respond could be numerous, and we suggest them with caution, not having been there. It may not only have not been you, but also not your partners.

Two possibilities come to mind:
Your partners may have been picking up on something from your husband that led to Performance Anxiety because either:

1. Your husband was loving on their wives really well (with enthusiastic response from the wives) - and they became self-conscious
2. They may have felt a vibe from your husband - a "Don't cross the line with my wife, buddy!" that may or may not have actually been there

Add either of those with alcohol, and that could make for a limp situation.

We don't want to leave those as the only possibilities, but good examples of something going on that is not a failure on your part to arouse a partner. It could even be the first of the above, but not because of your husband - because of the wives' reactions.