[wiscpl]

I see a bit of role reversely here but from what I see your still early in your lifestyle experience. If you read the board from top to bottom you would find a common theme throughout and thats communication. It's an esential part of a relationship and even more so when you are swinging.

Your experiences so far have been by chance so far. It doesn't suprise me that you hit it off with a single male in the first place. Single males need to be a little more outgoing when it comes to the lifestyle as they have little opportunity otherwise. Here's where you could have moved on and in the future I suggest this.

As far as your wife picking things up where they left off, consider yourself lucky. There are countless guys out there who would give anything for this kind of activity. The fact that your are not involved at this moment is discouraging but promising. Let your wife know your feelings on this matter. Discuss the possiblity further about your swinging seperately also. If she doesn't agree with it then you need to put your foot down and stop her activities with her girlfriend. What's good for the goose is good for the gander!