[Spoomonkey]

What it sounds like you need is a little reassurance honestly.

First, going to a swing club isn't a guarantee to play. You might - you might not. The last three times we have gone we only played once. Both of the other times we could have, but one week a couple who we weren't interested in kept following us around and the next week we simply weren't in the mood, even though some friends of ours were trying to "hook us up" with some couples - we just wanted to play pool. At a swing club, "your mileage may vary" as they say. Scaring up a little "novel" sex isn't as easy as declaring it "your turn."

Having said that, you may have opened a bit of a Pandora's box by letting an old lover into the picture. You can put the lid on it - but I doubt everyone would agree with my approach. You need to see if your wife is willing to give up the relationship and move forward into swinging together. Ask her to. Watch her eyes. Listen to her reactions. If this is really about the two of you - if she really believes that - she may be disappointed, but will respect your request.

I know Mrs Spoomonkey would.

I just don't think you're sure of her.

Slow her down and ask her to walk at your speed for a while. If she isn't willing to, you will know whether or not you are being "taken for a ride."

Spoomonkey