Looks like some great information from you guys so far and a side of things I hadn't thought about.
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Originally Posted by DarkandPatent As a single male, I would be most afraid of not meeting the expectations of what the husband want's for his wife. |
This should be what the couple wants......Couples in the lifestyle select together, Mr Spoo can veto a single male for any or no reason but doesn't really choose them or have "expectations" (other than respect, etc.) for what would attract me to a single. This same thing applies in reverse and for couples we are interested in (which is even harder because we both have to like and be comfortable with the M & F).
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Originally Posted by DarkandPatent If I were the friend asked to bring someone into a mix. I would find the best candidate and introduce them to the couple in the least formal way possible. This way the candidate does not know that they are in a selection process. It allows for the couple to decide whether or not they approve with little worry of letting injuring feelings. I also think that doing it in the least formal way would not deminish what the couple may think of me. I suppose what I am trying to formulate is an audition without the candidates knowing that it is an audition. |
This is a good idea. It takes the pressure off of the couple and the single male doing the introduction and saves the feelings of the incoming single (as well as the friendship of the two singles). If we did ask a single male friend to intoduce us to another single for MMFM I think I would prefer it this way since it wouldn't obligate us to play with the new single and we wouldn't hurt his feelings (two things that can make the lifestyle not fun...obligation and hurt feelings).
Mrs Spoomonkey