[EternallySingle]

I wouldn't feel comfortable introducing another man to a couple I knew. A group, yes. A single woman, maybe. But not a couple. I couldn't trust myself to find someone both of them liked.

A group is easy. I would just be bringing the group a potential new member. Usually, as long as two other people liked him and the rest didn't dislike him, he would be in.

A single woman is a little harder, but it would all boil down to how well she trusted me and how well I trusted him. If I knew he would behave himself and she knew I would pick someone that respected her, things could happen. Figuring out which of the guys I know would be attractive enough to a woman would be as easy as saying "if she wasn't sleeping with me, which guy that I know swings would she sleep with?"

But with a couple, I'd have to find a way to determine how well the husband would like him as an individual, how well the wife would like him as an individual, how well he would like the husband, how well he would like the wife, how well the couple liked him, and how well he liked the couple. Then we'd have to start over and add me to the equation. Of course, no one would do that much thinking in real life. He would just try and say "Hmmm....I know charlie and kevin and Matt swing and they were all cool at the party. Which one would Billy and Sue like?" Because men don't think of each other in sexual compatibility way (usually) we would have a hard time figuring out who would be a good fourth person in a MMFM.

It can be done, but it would be a logistical nightmare (another word that got me a lot of points in scrabble Friday LOL). Figuring out the sexual compatibility between the third man and the wife and the social compatibilty between all four is just a little too much for the generally non-multitaskable male brain.

Besides, most single men don't know as many other single men that swing. Single women and couples probably know more single women and couples that also swing because they have more opportunities to meet them, even if they learn they have no attraction. Most single men that swing are (or claim to be) straight, so they have no reason to get to know each other.

Unless they meet each other at a club or are introduced to each other at a house party. Either way, there would be couples that know both of them and then the couple would choose the participants of a MMFM. Once again, making that something the single man would not have to think about.

Sorry, didn't want to get long winded, but you asked.

Hope I made sense. Still a little disappointed about tonight. I think it was a bird. A lot of hawks have been transplanted to this area and the indentation is rather high on the windshield, but it didn't go through. A rock or treelimb would have gone through the windshield with me traveling 70mph on the highway.