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EmpyreanPleasur · 10-07-2005, 08:50 PM

This got me thinking from other threads...

How early in the process do you reveal your interests or limits? Whether you're soft swingers - or full swap who have met up with someone that you are feeling friendly with, but just aren't interested in playing with. Conversely, if you are interested in someone else, do you clearly reveal your interests early on or chat and visit for a while before you even say anything to them?

I always worry about "misleading" people. My husband says I'm too worried about waving our "soft swing status" like a flag. We are not always soft swing, as we do 3somes, but of course in most clubs, this is not going to lead to anything as most couples play together and not many clubs nearby allow single women.

So, I tend to try to work our limits into the conversation early on...he says I'm too worried about it and it's up to the other couple if it's that important to bring it up first.

How do the rest of you, soft, full swap and everything in between handle this?

10-07-2005, 08:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
EmpyreanPleasur Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 161 Location: Illinois Status: M. Female	How Soon Do You Reveal your boundaries? This got me thinking from other threads... How early in the process do you reveal your interests or limits? Whether you're soft swingers - or full swap who have met up with someone that you are feeling friendly with, but just aren't interested in playing with. Conversely, if you are interested in someone else, do you clearly reveal your interests early on or chat and visit for a while before you even say anything to them? I always worry about "misleading" people. My husband says I'm too worried about waving our "soft swing status" like a flag. We are not always soft swing, as we do 3somes, but of course in most clubs, this is not going to lead to anything as most couples play together and not many clubs nearby allow single women. So, I tend to try to work our limits into the conversation early on...he says I'm too worried about it and it's up to the other couple if it's that important to bring it up first. How do the rest of you, soft, full swap and everything in between handle this?