The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Wife won't swing, can I go and just watch?

Only_Watch · 10-07-2005, 02:46 PM

She is under the care of 3 doctors. She suffers from a herniated disc in her low lumbar -- So sex in any position is painful for her (She has refused the surgery option). She has allergies to most pain meds and anti-inflamitories. She also suffers from gut trouble and a malabsobtion -- So she has a very hightened gag reflex so any kind of oral sex is very limited. There is also thyrod problems in which the meds for that make her feel nausea alot. To top it all off, she turned the big "4" "0".
Don't get me wrong here -- I don't blame her for my problems. If I was in her place, sex would be the last thing I would want. Most of the time, I feel she gets intimate partly to pacify me and to a lesser extent to express physical love.
Every minute we can be together, we are together. I love sending time with her, sex or no sex. But these health issues have been going on for over 6 yrs now and I am not real sure what I should do. That is what brought me to the message board in the first place. I thank all of you for helping me sort this out. I welcome any and all opinions and suggestions.

10-07-2005, 02:46 PM	#9 (permalink)
Only_Watch Registered Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 4 Location: Portland, OR Status: M. Male Swing Lifestyle Name:Only_Watch	Re: Is it possible to swing without sex? She is under the care of 3 doctors. She suffers from a herniated disc in her low lumbar -- So sex in any position is painful for her (She has refused the surgery option). She has allergies to most pain meds and anti-inflamitories. She also suffers from gut trouble and a malabsobtion -- So she has a very hightened gag reflex so any kind of oral sex is very limited. There is also thyrod problems in which the meds for that make her feel nausea alot. To top it all off, she turned the big "4" "0". Don't get me wrong here -- I don't blame her for my problems. If I was in her place, sex would be the last thing I would want. Most of the time, I feel she gets intimate partly to pacify me and to a lesser extent to express physical love. Every minute we can be together, we are together. I love sending time with her, sex or no sex. But these health issues have been going on for over 6 yrs now and I am not real sure what I should do. That is what brought me to the message board in the first place. I thank all of you for helping me sort this out. I welcome any and all opinions and suggestions.