The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Wife won't swing, can I go and just watch?

CA91709 · 10-07-2005, 10:15 AM

Mr. CA posting...
First off, welcome to the board Only_Watch!

From what you write it does seem that the Mrs. is bound and determined NOT to swing. Something that may help is trying to redirect yourself away from the DVDs (however entertaining they may be) and towards your wife. In my opinion, Video/DVD Porn is fine as long as a married couple watches it together. When one or the other goes off alone it can take away from a relationship. I know, because porn is an adolescent habit I never grew out of and was a problem during my first marriage and (truth be told) was one of the reasons for the divorce between my former wife and I.

I have always been glad that Mrs. CA has had the patience, and yes, persistance to drag me out of this `Porn' shell. While Mrs. CA and I haven't actually swung yet in any fashion (soft or full swap), just talking about it has greatly increased our communications. Oh Lord I love this woman!!

I'm not condemning all Porn per se. It might work well for some, all I can relate is my own personal experience. In my opinion, you should try refocusing your attention. Maybe this will open your spouse to trying new things.

Mrs. CA...
oh,honey i love you more than ever. I like the fact that you are so willing to open up to me. we are definitely moving in the right direction.

Mr, CA...
Try it, Only_Watch. Highly recommended!

10-07-2005, 10:15 AM	#6 (permalink)
CA91709 Active Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 56 Location: California Status: Couple	Re: Is it possible to swing without sex? Mr. CA posting... First off, welcome to the board Only_Watch! From what you write it does seem that the Mrs. is bound and determined NOT to swing. Something that may help is trying to redirect yourself away from the DVDs (however entertaining they may be) and towards your wife. In my opinion, Video/DVD Porn is fine as long as a married couple watches it together. When one or the other goes off alone it can take away from a relationship. I know, because porn is an adolescent habit I never grew out of and was a problem during my first marriage and (truth be told) was one of the reasons for the divorce between my former wife and I. I have always been glad that Mrs. CA has had the patience, and yes, persistance to drag me out of this `Porn' shell. While Mrs. CA and I haven't actually swung yet in any fashion (soft or full swap), just talking about it has greatly increased our communications. Oh Lord I love this woman!! I'm not condemning all Porn per se. It might work well for some, all I can relate is my own personal experience. In my opinion, you should try refocusing your attention. Maybe this will open your spouse to trying new things. Mrs. CA... oh,honey i love you more than ever. I like the fact that you are so willing to open up to me. we are definitely moving in the right direction. Mr, CA... Try it, Only_Watch. Highly recommended!
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