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Greg & Sheryl · 10-04-2005, 05:03 PM

This is an interesting dilemma. Personally, we would love it if some vanilla people we knew turned out to be swingers. However, because you are particularly concerned about discretion, you will have to handle this situation very sensitively.

As others have suggested, there is probably no harm in going to this club with them. It's possible that they are legitimately curious without being interested in pursuing this lifestyle. But if they are genuinely interested, then you will have to decide how comfortable you are with having this part of your vanilla life become a part of your swinging life.

Our suggestion is to play dumb until they let their intentions be known. If it turns out they are interested in swinging with you, then you have four options:

1. Let them know you're not interested in this lifestyle (safest option).
2. Tell them that this lifestyle looks like fun, but you wouldn't feel right swinging with them (small risk).
3. Admit that you enjoy swinging, but you don't feel comfortable engaging in it so close to home (moderate risk).
4. Give in to their advances and make new playmates out of them (high risk).

This lifestyle comes with risks. What risks are you willing to take?

10-04-2005, 05:03 PM	#7 (permalink)
Greg & Sheryl Interracial Swingers Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 749 Location: Denver, CO Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Greg69Sheryl	Re: "Vanilla" friends propositioned us This is an interesting dilemma. Personally, we would love it if some vanilla people we knew turned out to be swingers. However, because you are particularly concerned about discretion, you will have to handle this situation very sensitively. As others have suggested, there is probably no harm in going to this club with them. It's possible that they are legitimately curious without being interested in pursuing this lifestyle. But if they are genuinely interested, then you will have to decide how comfortable you are with having this part of your vanilla life become a part of your swinging life. Our suggestion is to play dumb until they let their intentions be known. If it turns out they are interested in swinging with you, then you have four options: 1. Let them know you're not interested in this lifestyle (safest option). 2. Tell them that this lifestyle looks like fun, but you wouldn't feel right swinging with them (small risk). 3. Admit that you enjoy swinging, but you don't feel comfortable engaging in it so close to home (moderate risk). 4. Give in to their advances and make new playmates out of them (high risk). This lifestyle comes with risks. What risks are you willing to take?