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lovefest04 · 10-04-2005, 01:21 PM

WOW! We have been caught off guard and could use some advise.

We have been active for a couple of years. No one in our community knows about our swinging activities, we party outside the area or very discretely. Out of the blue a "vanilla", so we thought, couple asks us to join them and some other friends at a club. Now, the "vanilla" couple is acting like its all just in fun, experimenting, satisfying curiosity. They even said they think the other friends might be swingers, implying that they aren't, but they have heard about this wild stuff that goes on and just want to check it out.

We're really concerned about coming out and wonder what to do.

Maybe we should just keep away and maintian that we are not interested. On the other hand, these "vanilla" people are hot and a bunch of fun. This could open a whole new avenue and group of fun people to party and play with.

I know you guys are all smart and someone has had this same thing happen to them. What would you suggest? How should we handle it? Should we just come out and open up? Play along as if we're newbies? What?

We do like to be honest and open with everyone we deal with in all facets of our lives, but as others have said this facet could have major negative implications. I know how the closeted gays must feel.

Please advise.

10-04-2005, 01:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
lovefest04 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 183 Location: Northern California	"Vanilla" friends propositioned us WOW! We have been caught off guard and could use some advise. We have been active for a couple of years. No one in our community knows about our swinging activities, we party outside the area or very discretely. Out of the blue a "vanilla", so we thought, couple asks us to join them and some other friends at a club. Now, the "vanilla" couple is acting like its all just in fun, experimenting, satisfying curiosity. They even said they think the other friends might be swingers, implying that they aren't, but they have heard about this wild stuff that goes on and just want to check it out. We're really concerned about coming out and wonder what to do. Maybe we should just keep away and maintian that we are not interested. On the other hand, these "vanilla" people are hot and a bunch of fun. This could open a whole new avenue and group of fun people to party and play with. I know you guys are all smart and someone has had this same thing happen to them. What would you suggest? How should we handle it? Should we just come out and open up? Play along as if we're newbies? What? We do like to be honest and open with everyone we deal with in all facets of our lives, but as others have said this facet could have major negative implications. I know how the closeted gays must feel. Please advise.