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Originally Posted by Gorgegon 1 What does the number 897 at the end of your nickname mean? |
It's the number of people we've had sex with.
Nah, you knew I was kidding, right? (I hope!) It doesn't mean anything. "intuition" is probably a fairly common nickname. One website we registered on suggested the random numbers '897' after 'intuition' so we just stuck with it. The chances of someone else having the same handle are slim to nil. It just cuts down on having to play 20 Questions with the 'Can You Think of a Nickname Game'.
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Originally Posted by Gorgegon 2 Do you prefer same or separate room full swap ? |
Depends entirely on the couple. Usually same room, though. We enjoy the visual aspect of it.
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Originally Posted by Gorgegon 3 Since you wrote that your best swinging experience was probably your first full swap, what do you think it needs to happen in order to have a better and better experience each time you swing? Do you think this is possible? |
Learn to relax more with your own partner. Learn to trust him/her. Once the novelty has worn off (and it will) you'll find that no one else really compares to your partner. You would never choose someone else over them. This is ultimately what monogamy is all about. All we've done is made the Forbidden acceptable, and it so doing, we have removed the mystery of it. There are no bogeymen in the closet, and there are no monsters under the bed. When you discover these things for yourself, instead of listening to someone else try to reassure you (leaving you with that .001% grain of doubt), you begin to understand. You have your proof then. Now that the mystery is gone, I'm sure we will eventually retire from swinging. Not yet, but someday. It is not needed for our relationship to thrive. It never was.
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Originally Posted by Gorgegon 4 What would Mr. Intuition and you be looking for if you wanted to make your next swinging experience the best ever ? |
Hmmm. Local people. Normal people. People you met at something non-swinging related, such as sharing a table in a crowded restaurant, or meeting them while taking a class together (still trying to get Mr. intuition to take ballroom dancing classes with me
). We would hit it off immediately with them and they would be very interesting to talk to. We would be enjoying our conversation so much that it would seem perfectly natural to go out for a beer or go to one house or the other for a backyard BBQ. We're talking about more than one get-together here. The guys get along great and have lots of guy-talk in common. The girls likewise. Everyone knows there is some unmentioned sexual tension going on. Neither couple is supermodel-hot, but just ordinary folk who are comfortable with their sexuality and know how to use it. During all this conversation, it would become apparent what our hobby is or perhaps things just naturally flow in that direction. In between meetings, there would be plenty of hot sex and fantasizing about 'what if's. Eventually, everyone would become a little more daring with a game of poker-gone-dirty. After we'd had some playtime, we'd hope that things don't get 'weird' and they would remain good friends. It would be so nice to find a few couples who - while not needing to develop friendship first - aren't afraid to commit to real friendship. You know, the kind where if someone's having a rough day, it's not taboo to call one another and vent a little. Friends. You know. Like your other friends you hang out with. The ones you don't have sex with. Like that. Except you have sex with these ones.
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Originally Posted by Gorgegon 5 You wrote that your husband brought up the subject about swinging to you, and he left you totally confused with the concept and after several discussions with him you agreed to try it. What would you have done if you husband believed in monogamy and never had brought the subject to you? |
We probably would either still be living in ignorance of the wonder of each other, or we would be divorced by now. Our communication skills left much to be desired and resulted in a lot of hurt and loneliness. Swinging was definitely a slap in the face. It was like having ice water dumped over you in your sleep. Reality can be harsh, but I wouldn't trade it for any dream. Not anymore. Nope, our marriage is now as real as it gets, and that's exactly the way I like it.
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Originally Posted by Gorgegon 6 Could you be happy being monogamous or it was a matter of time before you proposed the concept to him? |
Not entirely sure I understand the question. But yes, I think we'll both eventually gravitate toward sexual monogamy again. Swinging is unnecessary. It's just a nice change of pace now and then.
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Originally Posted by Gorgegon 7 You are a very intelligent women and it seems that swinging has made you think differently about life itself, you have made tons of very valuable contributions to this forum besides of being a long time member. However what other subjects other than swinging do you think can make a radical change in the way you think or live like swinging has done to you? |
I like to think that swinging was actually just a catalyst. It didn't make us what we are. We did that. I'm just thankful that we tried it, because we found that it forced us to make tough decisions, face reality, and stand up for ourselves.
I think it boils down to simple things: the pursuit of Truth, come what may; The Golden Rule, otherwise known as living an other-centred life, devoted to being of service to mankind and Kindness as a way of life; Bravery, and strength of Conviction; self-accountability; Humility in knowing that we know absolutely nothing. These are simple things. I'm Christian, so the more I examine what is important in this life, the more convinced I am that God exists, and Jesus' teachings were right on track! Swinging is such a small part of life. An afterthought, really. Sex is so unimportant in the grander scheme of things. I think the whole point of life is to live it deliberately and purposefully for the betterment of those who share the world with you. I don't think there is anything that will offer such a profound sense of accomplishment as that.
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Originally Posted by Gorgegon 8 Now an easy one. I read somewhere that you like wine. What kind do you like ?  |
Red. Montepulciano d'Abruzzo, Shiraz (Yellow Tail), and Merlot.