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Originally Posted by BodyScape02 Waht would be your biggest fear in life? |
You mean aside from the loss of my children? Mr. intuition dying before I do.
I don't know what I would do without him. Smaller fears: spiders and snakes. For Mr. intuition, I think his biggest fear is losing his kids. He would never be the same man again.
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Originally Posted by BodyScape02 How do you think you would/will handle it if you ever get outed? |
Part of me wishes that we could just be done with all this bullshit pussyfooting around about it and just say, "Yeah, we're swingers, and damn proud of it! What's it to ya?!" We remain quiet about it because we don't want to cause anyone else distress about our choices, and I know for a FACT that our families and friends would be greatly distressed. Our kids wouldn't understand it either because they've grown up steeped in the usual traditional style of childrearing that promotes monogamy and the use of loopholes above all else. :rollseyes It's a very difficult pitfall to avoid. And even if they did understand, they're not stupid. They'll see how others react to our lifestyle, others whom they have grown to love, respect and admire. Others who would never steer them wrong...right? So when Auntie or Grandma or Grandpa or Cousin Ethel make their opinions known in front of these children, they listen to them...even though they have no idea what they're talking about! It's a tough spot.
How would we handle it? Probably just focus on reassuring our kids that while, yes, we do have a non-mainstream idea of what a marriage should be, our marriage is very real and intact. We're not going anywhere. We'd also want to let them know that we're very sorry that they have to go through the BS that they will have to, but there's nothing to be done for it. Handled properly, this could be a good example of doing the right thing, even when it's unpopular. It's important.
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Originally Posted by BodyScape02 How much time does answering mail take ( as opposed to actually swinging? |
We haven't been very active over the past year, but when we are more active in swinging, correspondance takes up about 90% of whatever time we devote to it. Well, correspondance and meeting new couples for dinner/drinks.
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Originally Posted by BodyScape02 Would rather have a new couple every week ( or month or whatever) or have a group of freinds that remains the same? |
Preferably we'd find a select group of friends - maybe 4-5 couples - that we would play with regularly. It's so much work to find a compatible couple! We're pretty picky, and it's not worth it to lower our standards.
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Originally Posted by BodyScape02 What warning signs do you look for when interviewing playmates? |
Signs that the couple is into swinging for the wrong reasons: Can't wait to ditch one another for the night, overeager, hesitancy, reluctance, bitterness, shmoozieness (I can't stand ass kissers), or other signs that they aren't communicating well. Other things we can't stand are loud obnoxious drunks, snootiness (We're-better-than-you-itis), liars (this includes people who misrepresent themselves), and just generally those lacking class.
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Originally Posted by BodyScape02 What is the silliest request you ever recieved ( swinging and/or not)? |
No real horror stories here. We've gotten emails that were...entertaining. For example, some guy wrote me some smutty poetry, outlining all the things he was going to do to me...and then proceeded to tell me that my husband was not welcome on this escapade. :rollseyes Ooooooh-kaaaaaay.... I think we just sent him back an LOL or something.