[montresor]

I've been in situations like this, where there is someone who is mostly watching and masturbating. It usually happens in the context of a larger group, where there's a nice big tangle of people on the bed, and one or two people on the sidelines, watching, masturbating, touching sometimes, etc. It was perfectly natural and no-one felt that these people were fifth wheels. The sexual energy enclosed everyone regardless of the level of participation.

I think Cabrownsugar has a perfectly fine idea that allows her to explore her sexuality and stay within her own comfort zone. I also applaud her refusal of labels. If labels were to govern us all, I'd have missed out on some of the best sex I ever had, with a woman who society would have called a lesbian because she was in a long-standing relationship with another woman and hadn't been with a man for a decade or so, the lovely Ms F, who is now a regular playmate with me in the swingers' scene. The term "lesbian" meant little enough as she fucked me every conceivable way she could -- while, by the way, her female partner watched, masturbated, stroked and guided my cock into her lover's pussy, and used a dildo on my bottom while I fucked her partner. Another "no-penetration" participant, but I felt as if I'd had sex with both of them.