[bear_and_babe]

Great timing on this question! Bear went to a house party last night without me (I was sick) and by the time he got home, I was very upset. I even told him it was ok to go. But the more I thought about it I felt that swinging solo was not for us. In the past I have played with a swing partner solo, with Bear's knowledge, and I was ok with it until about a week later. To me it just felt like an affair, and that is not what we are into.

When we were in an exclusive relationship with another couple, we did play solo. The other guy and I would stay home and play an Bear and the other woman would go to a movie or whatnot. We felt ok with that.

When we go to the club or house parties, we do play separate, it is too hard to have everyone click to play with couples. But we don't feel that we are really playing "solo" in that case. We are still in the same building, we came together and we leave together.

I guess it comes down to what works for one couple may not work for another. We just have to do what we are comfortable with and right now swinging solo is not in our comfort zone.