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Originally posted by youngish56
Just a couple of initial thought reactions to your question. I'm straight male and admit somewhat intolerant of male gays - but not lesbians. The result of our society I'm afraid. I wonder if he might be afraid to find he has more male interest than he has admitted to you or himself. I myself, am able to identify this thought in myself during some MFM experiences, but I've never felt so strong an urge to explore as your man.
Traditionally, in the old battle between "fear" and "hunger", hunger wins out. Best wishes on this adventure. |
This sort of sentiment is exactly what I am talking about. I enjoy the sexuality and engaging in sex with another woman, but I do not consider myself a lesbian. I am a woman who enjoys both sexes. In my mind a lesbian is centered soley on the female sex with no desire for a male. Therefore I consider myself bi-sexual as I equally enjoy the sensuality that they both have to offer.
I don't think he has a fear of finding out he might be "gay" as you call it, so much as what he might be labled as by the general society of swingers. Your statements seem to confirm that. I will say that he has, does, and will probably for the rest of his life desire a woman first and foremost. Why should he not be able to explore a side of himself even if it is only curiosity? It is no different than two women exploring their sexuality, but it doesn't mean that they don't still love and prefer men as their life mates. It shouldn't be any different for him either.
Magnolia