Well I am the single male who has never even really met other swingers in person. There is definitely a certain amount of nerves it takes (for me at least) just to meet others who think openly. I think for me sex has been such a "taboo" to talk about it takes a lot to be really comfortable to meet people for the pure fact that we are meeting because of sex (not to have sex but because we met on a site that people mainly go to to talk about sex etc). I personally don't like it when a couple thinks that a single guy just wants to get laid and don't even worry about his comfort level. Is this the case here? I kind of doubt it because most of the members here know how to act and treat people. For me I would love to try a DP. Would I do it the first time I ever meet a swinging couple? Honestly I don't know. I would have to feel comfortable or have some liquil courage in me.
It is something that I want to try and I think the best way to get someone like myself to give it a try would be to talk to them for a while via email. Then meet them out a few times to hang out and just chat and the plan a "date" so-to-speak. I really think that would be a good way to go about getting someone comfortable to play who has never played before.