[Spoomonkey]

This is a good topic - and I hope you forgive me for being very honest, but I think it can make for good discussion.

As a swinging couple, we have enjoyed a few MFF with other females and they are almost always memorable experiences. But, simply to have a voyeur in the room... Well - no...

I have a bit of an exhibitionist side. I think Mrs Spoo is beautiful and that our sex is animalistic and exciting and would be quite a show for anyone. But, the kink for me would be the "pornographic charge" of it all; knowing that the people watching us are getting turned on by it - not simply being educated - watching us like a show on the Discovery Channel.

Meeting a woman who is a virgin (in itself would be a turn off for us, simply because we prefer to play with people who have a deeper understanding of sex and their sexuality) and plans to stay that way would only present us with the question of "what are we supposed to do with her?"

"Sit here in the corner and take notes..." (?)

Not exactly our idea of a good time...

It may be considered a benevolent act - a public service perhaps - but it wouldn't enhance our marriage and our sex life. And that is, bottom line, why we do it: for us. That may sound selfish, but we ARE talking about openning up our bedroom - a very private, personal space - to others.

Why virgins would seek out swingers? I don't know - I do suppose that Julie is right on the mark, as are you. We are an open, accepting community - as long as people are not trying to force us outside of our comfort zones for their own gain.

But we are not a group of people who are simply going to jump any fully functioning person indiscriminately - as many seem to believe. Nor are we so rampantly sexual that we don't care who watches, jumps in or knows about what we do. I think virgins (males, specifically, as I would not classify you in this statement) and cheaters come here for the same thing - easy sex... And that is one thing they will be hard pressed to find here. They would have far better luck in any bar on any given night than they would here.

Spoomonkey