[montresor]

Wow, fastidious swinging sure sounds like it defeats the whole purpose. Especially if the lady wants to be penetrated by both guys. You get into an "After you, Alphonse" kind of mode. I tend to like the "puppy pile" mode of fun.

I read a lot of things about "no 'taking one for the team,' " and while this may be true for the general situation -- such as agreeing to swing only to make your partner happy when you yourself have less than zero interest in having sex with other people -- I think it's more loving to help a partner fulfill her fantasy, whether or not a guy's balls brush against yours. Big cracks will not appear in the earth, the sun will not suddenly rise in the west, Zeus will not strike you down with a thunderbolt and Clear Channel will not plaster every one of their billboards across the USA with your smilin' face and the words "BIG MO!"

Whee doggies, as Uncle Jed would say. In any event, I think a guy should ALWAYS be ready to try whatever his gal wants. She wants a cock in her pussy and her ass? His response should be, "I'll get the lube, dear." She wants her clit tongued while she sits on a naked prick and leans back? Get down there and lick the lady, Mr Man!

Asbestos disclaimer: this clearly only applies to me. Everyone's entitled to their preferences. I myself don't particularly care if things get a little blurry in the boundary department, because I'm pretty sure of who I am, regardless of what guy I might come in close physical naked touching-type contact with in the course of collaborating on pleasing a lady with a big sexual appetite. Does that make me a "BIG MO?" I like to think that's not the case.

Oh, as for "taking one for the team," I don't include in that swinging with a couple or single that one of you likes but the other loathes; but again, I could see modifying that if it's your female partner who says, "Let's do it!" Her fun comes first, and guys can always close their eyes and think of England.