[xxoticangel]

In our expierence couple friendships and swinging don't go well together. We have "swung" with friends and found that the more we were together time we spent swinging and the less time we did other things. The last year of the relationship was almost entirely about swinging and caused some hurt feelings when one couple or the other was not looking to hook up that day.

Playmates that became close friends didn't work out much better. We found the opposite was true with them. The more time we spent together the less swinging we did. We got so close to one couple that we ended up trading babysitting duties so the other couple could meet someone else.

Surprisingly (sp?) single males have not posed the same problems. We have never had any problems with friends of mine after swinging. An old military buddy of mine comes to town about twice a year on business and always stays with us. He usually stays 5-7 days and we may only have sex once and there has never any pressure for more. We have had a couple of one nighter (or weekenders) with other friends that have never been mentioned again. The guys and I still do our guy things and none have ever mentioned doing a repeat performance.

We prefer to play with someone we are attracted to first and see what develops later. There have been too many times we have had great sex with a couple that we had nothing but a physical attraction to that we would have missed if we had tried to develop a friendship first.