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All we can relate is our own experience. Our closest friends are a couple we met and became swing partners with. We are very careful about boundaries and have spent a great deal of time defining emotional limits. This was necessary because it has become a long standing friendship between the four of us. The guys have become good friends (both absolutely straight) and the wives are wonderful friends and play together as well as swapping husbands. We spend more time doing "vanilla" friend type things as couples......dancing, eating out as couples, even going to family get togethers together. (both sets of grown kids ....19-20 yr olds) are very accepting of our friendship and of course know nothing about anything else. We have found that the friendship has actually grown stronger and the playtimes more profound and exciting as time has passed. (probably over 30 times at this point) but we also are very much into respect for each as a couple-- each of us have been married 24 years, and feel strongly that each would never do anything that in any way would jepardize those marital bonds. It is hard to explain.......but yes....with maturity and alot of communication........it can and does work!