[Spoomonkey]

I think what you'll find on this point is really opinions - not much applicable advice. The reason I say that is that I completely agree with JennAndJames - that just because you read it doesn't make it true. I agree with Julie - that a threesome is something that all three need to be comfortable with, no need for "alone" time. And my feelings on it are right in line with greygo - our playmates are not equal in our relationship - anymore than any of our other friends are.

That said, I also think EvilMJ said it well - if it is your thing and within your comfort level, go for it.

I don't think alone time will make the threesome any better or worse, really. But there is really nothing wrong with doing it. That, really, is the nature of swinging as we see it - we do what we want and what we are comfortable with. We don't let anyone else, be it other swingers or articles we might read, define the lifestyle for us.

And for us - playing alone is not an option.

But that doesn't make it wrong.

If you two (three) feel it will enhance the experience - and you are comfortable with the potential risks of what you are doing - then I think what you describe is a fine idea.

Spoomonkey