[WesternSwing]

It all has to do with what you are comfortable with. I have sent my wife on "missions" that I've set up with both a single guy (we've had several MFM's with him and know him on a social basis also) and the husband of a couple we swing with (the wife and I planned their surprise together). Mrs. WS really liked the one-on-one time with the single guy at his house with no other distractions (worrying about me, etc.). Plus, it is a little gift I give both of them. She also wants to give me the same experience with another woman.

The key here is that I am in control of when and where. I set up her meeting with the other guy. She asks me playfully when her next "mission" is and it adds excitement to the experience. Now, does she play regularly solo with other guys? No. I'm not comfortable with that, and for both of us it takes the the naughty adventure aspect out of it. That's our comfort level.

So don't believe what the books say. Swinging is what you make of it, and that depends on what you are comfortable with. If you are comfortable with her being with another guy in the next room, across town, in the next state, or whatever, it is whatever turns you and her on.

The next thing you have to ask is: does she want to play solo? Some don't. Some like the couple aspect of it. In fact, although Mrs. WS likes the "missions", the best sex with our single friend is when we are all together because it is the most erotic.

If you do it, just make sure you have a very open line of communication between you (meaning all three of you), because I can guarantee there will be a bit of jealousy creeping in when you least expect it. Good communication will nip it in the bud.

Mr. WS