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graygo98 · 09-29-2005, 04:25 PM

The two phrases that caught my eye were when you talked about making him more comfortable in "the relationship" and making him feel like an "equal".

While you have to respect him as an individual not a meat puppet, IMHO he is not in a "relationship" with you and/or your wife. You and your wife have a relationship. He joins you for play because that is something that gives the two of you, and hopefully him, great pleasure.

Similarly, he is not an equal. No one else in the world is when it comes to my wife and I... she is first and other than my kids second isn't even close.

She can spend some alone time with him if that works for the two of you. Not something we would do, but that's just us.

09-29-2005, 04:25 PM	#10 (permalink)
graygo98 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 383 Location: Toronto Status: Couple	Re: Giving wife & her lover time alone together The two phrases that caught my eye were when you talked about making him more comfortable in "the relationship" and making him feel like an "equal". While you have to respect him as an individual not a meat puppet, IMHO he is not in a "relationship" with you and/or your wife. You and your wife have a relationship. He joins you for play because that is something that gives the two of you, and hopefully him, great pleasure. Similarly, he is not an equal. No one else in the world is when it comes to my wife and I... she is first and other than my kids second isn't even close. She can spend some alone time with him if that works for the two of you. Not something we would do, but that's just us.