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Chicup · 09-29-2005, 03:25 PM

Dito

What Julie said. It took me a LONG time getting comfortable as the extra male in a threesome situation, but alone time would not have really helped. It would have made me more relaxed for that moment, but it doesn't change the threesome dynamic. In fact the only thing that really made me comfortable with the threesomes was when my wife started to have them. Before she did, I always felt like that extra wheel, I was worried about what her husband would think, I was afraid I was overstepping bounds, and unlike a 4some I didn't bring anything to the table besides myself, it was like I was stealing in another couples private moment. On more than one occasion I thought, 'that was fun, but never again.'

Then at some point he came over for a threesome with my wife and most of my feelings of insecurity with them went away. I saw that it was a lot of fun, and I really liked her having a good time. Since then we have done this little husband exchange many times and its been great.

My point in this story is that he needs to learn to get comfortable with YOU as well as her. If this is a single guy I would be leery of giving him alone time with your wife. Remember, single guys are often not so much swingers but just single guys, sometimes single guys don't want to stay single.

09-29-2005, 03:25 PM	#7 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 2,447 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	Re: Giving wife & her lover time alone together Dito What Julie said. It took me a LONG time getting comfortable as the extra male in a threesome situation, but alone time would not have really helped. It would have made me more relaxed for that moment, but it doesn't change the threesome dynamic. In fact the only thing that really made me comfortable with the threesomes was when my wife started to have them. Before she did, I always felt like that extra wheel, I was worried about what her husband would think, I was afraid I was overstepping bounds, and unlike a 4some I didn't bring anything to the table besides myself, it was like I was stealing in another couples private moment. On more than one occasion I thought, 'that was fun, but never again.' Then at some point he came over for a threesome with my wife and most of my feelings of insecurity with them went away. I saw that it was a lot of fun, and I really liked her having a good time. Since then we have done this little husband exchange many times and its been great. My point in this story is that he needs to learn to get comfortable with YOU as well as her. If this is a single guy I would be leery of giving him alone time with your wife. Remember, single guys are often not so much swingers but just single guys, sometimes single guys don't want to stay single.