One thing the I (the male half) has discovered in my lifetime is that friendships, whether they be within the lifestyle or outside of it, cannot be forced. If you go about meeting people with the idea that you're going to try to make a close friend out of everyone you meet, then you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Only a small percentage of people on this planet have the potential to become friends with you.
Your best friendships will generally occur accidentally. Think about the people in your past with whom you've shared friendships. I'll bet few, if any of those friendships, were manufactured. Most likely, these friendships happened spontaneously when you met someone by chance and you happened to "click."
My suggestion would be to continue to meet other couples socially. You don't have to swing with everyone you meet (unless you want to!), but you're bound to meet some interesting people and have some fun doing so. Eventually, you'll meet a couple with whom you have great chemistry. That couple may become friends for life.
Our best friends are a couple from Colorado Springs. I actually met them by chance at a Denver strip club before I started dating Sheryl. I was dating and swinging with another lady at the time, while this other couple were just getting into the lifestyle. This past summer, they were kind enough to help Sheryl and I move into our first home. We love this couple! Indeed, friendships happen in the lifestyle.
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