Thanks to everyone for your advice and encouragement so far..
pumpkins1970 - It does seem to be the case most times the men are "along for the ride". But i'll continue for now. I'm just taking time to do a lot of reading and go in slow. Good luck to you also.
hilltop - I plan to take this slowly and carefully, it's not an imperative. I believe it's better to be a little overly cautious than jump in too fast.
This is the first site related to swinging i've registered on. I'm going to look into clubs in my area and maybe try a meet & greet.
JnCC - Yes it seems the old rule of "3's a crowd" is still in play somewhat. I see it as a matter of getting to know people first, and they'll either accept me the way I am or not. The way I see it i'll have at least made some new friends.
northindycpl - I totally agree that personality is #1, there has to be some communication first. It's not odd at all what you say about liking large men, I know there are ladies out there that do. In fact i've met one online that I cyber with fairly regularly.