Swinging can complicate friendships. We recently met two very cool couples that we really got along with and had a lot in common with. They were already all friends, and we were the new ones. For whatever reason, not all six of us were necessarily feeling the sexual chemistry, and so the other two couples have pulled back from us.
We would have been thrilled to meet these people regardless of sex, and if we had met them in any other context then I really do think that we would have all wanted to be friends. We think that they have pulled back because they are afraid that we won't understand if they don't want to get into the sex thing. They are all a little less experienced with swinging than we are and they seem to move a little slower, so we think that they are just shy about openly discussing things so they pulled away.
It sucks, but whatever, if the context that we met them in makes them uncomfortable then we have to understand. We really do feel like it's a shame though, we all had a lot of things in common, things that we normally have trouble finding in our vanilla friends, much less swingers.
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