 friendship vs. sex
My wife and I started swinging a year ago. the couple we were with were very nice and became close friends. when we go to their house there is no pressure to have sex. We talk and and watch a movie have a few drinks or not . If the urge to have sex is their it we make sure everyone is in agreement.if not oh well so what . We like making new friends some closer than others. We value the friends we have it does'nt matter if they are in the lifestyle or not.If you can not keep swinging friends very long you must get another look at what is goin on when you meet these people.and do not be blind to anything from either side.I find if you push yourself to hard on a couple they will back off.If we meet a couple who for some odd reason disrespect each other in public that is a turn off for us.If one of them seems to try and outdo the other ...turn off...we do not like show offs ...turn off...If they have a bad public appearance....turn offf...if they become our shadow ...turn offf....we will respect the other couple very much and expect the same in return.friendship is very valuable and cherished.We let all our friends know this.we never discuss what the other one has said to anyone and that is important. so all i can say is step aside and take a long look at what you are doing and if your eyes are open wide enough you may see the problem.
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