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Originally posted by AttentionGetter
Is there any real way to have a true friendship in this lifestyle?! A year and a half ago we ventured into this having no idea that friends could be made in this. We just thought it was all sex. This was part of my reluctance for a long time. Friendship is the main thing we seek out in this, before sex. We have repeatedly met couples, gotten to know them, began what seemed like a beautiful friendship, only to have it go to crap a few months later. What is wrong here? Do we have the wrong idea about swinging? I am to the point where I'm ready to quit and just not have any friends. Before this we didn't have that many friends or a social life. Maybe this is why I cling to it so much? If we stop, I'm afraid we will go back to a boring life like we had before. Taking ANY suggestions, comments, or ideas PLEASE! HELP!
Weezie |
Weezie, After reading your letter I felt that I need to write you. First I want to ask you what kind of friend are you? What kind of friends are you seeking? Twenty plus years ago I had wonder experiences meeting new persons at swingers clubs and some of these persons are still my friends. Perhaps your need is greater than your desire. Friendships take time. Some you will engage sexually with one or more times and never see them again, others you will have sex with and will remain your friends for years to come with or without sex. Just because you want someone to be your friend doesn't mean that they will feel the same way. Do you have any friendships outside of swinging? Learn patience and lightheartedness. Friendship is a two way street. True friends are like diamonds precious but rare. False friends are like autumn leaves found everywhere.