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Vespertine · 09-11-2005, 01:44 PM

I'll bite.

Before my husband were married, in our early months of dating, I was embarrassed to share my fantasies with him. I was afraid that I would shock him, or that he would think differently of me. I'd wait for him to initiate anything more colorful than mainstream sex acts because I was not confident enough with our relationship to share my true sexual desires. I was afraid I'd turn him off or that he would only entertain my fantasies just to appease me and secretly he would be turned off by them.

I have since grown up and have become comfortable with my sexuality. Through our sexual discovery with eachother, we have found that there are things I love that he hates and vice versa. I know now that that's OK. We can have different tastes and fantasies and still manage to have a wonderful sexual relationship with eachother... and neither one of us would find the other to be 'weird' for having a specific fantasy.

09-11-2005, 01:44 PM	#5 (permalink)
Vespertine Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,688 Location: Shangri La Status: Happily Married	Re: Sharing Fantasies I'll bite. Before my husband were married, in our early months of dating, I was embarrassed to share my fantasies with him. I was afraid that I would shock him, or that he would think differently of me. I'd wait for him to initiate anything more colorful than mainstream sex acts because I was not confident enough with our relationship to share my true sexual desires. I was afraid I'd turn him off or that he would only entertain my fantasies just to appease me and secretly he would be turned off by them. I have since grown up and have become comfortable with my sexuality. Through our sexual discovery with eachother, we have found that there are things I love that he hates and vice versa. I know now that that's OK. We can have different tastes and fantasies and still manage to have a wonderful sexual relationship with eachother... and neither one of us would find the other to be 'weird' for having a specific fantasy.
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