[jstlkng]

I agree with you male d that "swinging is about seeing your SO have fun, but of their own volition." I have found that my wife's attitude is so similar to the attitudes of other women as expressed by many men on this site and others as well.

I would cherish seeing (being in her presence at the time) or not seeing (giving her my blessing to enjoy others without my presence) my wife enjoy her sexuality with others, whether I was "involved" or not. She thinks I am "sick" because I feel this way. She "could never consent" to me having sex with someone else. Yet like others when she watches this happen in the movies, it really does enhance her libido. Strange, isn't it?

I believe the reason that swinging is so honest is because true swingers really do have their partners best interest in mind and it starts, not with sex, but with all the other things that make a marriage/partnership great. Its just too sad that some in a marriage are willing to be so giving and others are so self-centered as to deny their spouse's fulfillment, emotionally or sexually. Without a doubt there are many couples who visit this site who have such one-sided marriages.

For those of you who have seen thearapists about your one-sided marriages you will probably agree with me that you have never met one who advised a spouse to open their mind and heart and be more accepting of their spouse. It has been my experience that the advice is always to close your mind and heart, apologize for your freaky ideas and sacrifice your desires for the other. Thearapy can be so damn negative.

jstlkng