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MrClassic · 09-09-2005, 07:42 AM

My wife and I talked last night...it didn't start out well. I was more sad then I can remember after our session since I found out my wife was afraid to go places with me. I told her I thought it was time for us to separate. More so for me because I felt betrayed by her and the spell of love was broken for me. I'm not a cryer, but I cried harder than I can ever remember telling her how hard it was to seperate with my best friend but I thought it was better for both of us. If all the things she says in the sessions are true, the marriage is worthless to me.

We ended up talking until after 2am. It was difficult but we did make some progress and I'm not separating. After a lot of discussion I was able to determine that she is very insecure about our marriage. When I look at a babe walking down the street she assumes I'm ready to leave her for that stranger. When I talk about 3-somes and swapping she believes I gave her an ultimatum to do it or I WILL divorce her. I asked her when I said that and she said I never said the words, she just assumed since it was on my mind so often it was do or die for me. We confirmed that I never said that and it wasn't true, but I think she'll need to hear if from the good doctor before she believes me.

I tried to explain to her why the good doctor said her mother did too good of a job on her. She budged a little on the fact that she may be a little bit of a prude for no good reason. I think I showed her how protecting the prudish ideals seemed more important to her than saving the marriage. After all, if she really believes I would divorce her if she doesn't do a 3-some, why the hell isn't she out scheduling a 3-some to save the marriage? It can't be further from the truth, I am not looking to divorce her for lack of 3-somes but I thought it was a valid question.

She also believe you all don't exist. There's no way there's a large group of people out there who have successfully swapped partners and survived to talk about it. And if you are saying positive things it must have happened once and very bad things are coming your way soon. Or its a conspiracy theory and there's some pervert in NJ typing all your responses. There's just no way swapping and 3-somes can work.

So I agreed to go to bed rather than leave and we snuggled and fell asleep. Pretty dead tired at that point. The weirdest thing happened sometime during the night. I woke up with a few fingers in a sloppy wet pussy. Things progressed rapidly and we had some awesome sex. She didn't orgasm but it was still a great session. We both believe its a good sign.

So we're at the point where she has assumed some responsibility to make it work better too. Rather than just me stopping the talk about 3-somes etc., she is also going to try to come out of her shell a little. The good doctor is on vacation and we're not scheduled to go back for two weeks. She is also going to talk to her best friend about this and get her opinion. Her best friend is, I believe, more open when it comes to sex. I believe my wife will realize I am a little more normal and "safe" than she believes.

Sorry again for the long book... its good therapy for me.

Thanks!!

09-09-2005, 07:42 AM	#10 (permalink)
MrClassic Registered Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 5 Location: PA	Re: My Wife Says Never! Updates My wife and I talked last night...it didn't start out well. I was more sad then I can remember after our session since I found out my wife was afraid to go places with me. I told her I thought it was time for us to separate. More so for me because I felt betrayed by her and the spell of love was broken for me. I'm not a cryer, but I cried harder than I can ever remember telling her how hard it was to seperate with my best friend but I thought it was better for both of us. If all the things she says in the sessions are true, the marriage is worthless to me. We ended up talking until after 2am. It was difficult but we did make some progress and I'm not separating. After a lot of discussion I was able to determine that she is very insecure about our marriage. When I look at a babe walking down the street she assumes I'm ready to leave her for that stranger. When I talk about 3-somes and swapping she believes I gave her an ultimatum to do it or I WILL divorce her. I asked her when I said that and she said I never said the words, she just assumed since it was on my mind so often it was do or die for me. We confirmed that I never said that and it wasn't true, but I think she'll need to hear if from the good doctor before she believes me. I tried to explain to her why the good doctor said her mother did too good of a job on her. She budged a little on the fact that she may be a little bit of a prude for no good reason. I think I showed her how protecting the prudish ideals seemed more important to her than saving the marriage. After all, if she really believes I would divorce her if she doesn't do a 3-some, why the hell isn't she out scheduling a 3-some to save the marriage? It can't be further from the truth, I am not looking to divorce her for lack of 3-somes but I thought it was a valid question. She also believe you all don't exist. There's no way there's a large group of people out there who have successfully swapped partners and survived to talk about it. And if you are saying positive things it must have happened once and very bad things are coming your way soon. Or its a conspiracy theory and there's some pervert in NJ typing all your responses. There's just no way swapping and 3-somes can work. So I agreed to go to bed rather than leave and we snuggled and fell asleep. Pretty dead tired at that point. The weirdest thing happened sometime during the night. I woke up with a few fingers in a sloppy wet pussy. Things progressed rapidly and we had some awesome sex. She didn't orgasm but it was still a great session. We both believe its a good sign. So we're at the point where she has assumed some responsibility to make it work better too. Rather than just me stopping the talk about 3-somes etc., she is also going to try to come out of her shell a little. The good doctor is on vacation and we're not scheduled to go back for two weeks. She is also going to talk to her best friend about this and get her opinion. Her best friend is, I believe, more open when it comes to sex. I believe my wife will realize I am a little more normal and "safe" than she believes. Sorry again for the long book... its good therapy for me. Thanks!!