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Originally Posted by AlanCatherine So the no-kissing rule has been superseded by the no-holding-hands rule?
Doesn't the "love and commitment" that could handle a deep passionate kiss also handle hand-holding? Or do we really have some physical limits after all? |
I think it's not the act, but what it implies. Why do we kiss? Because it gets us hot and it's fun. Why do we hold hands? Usually not to get us hot. I think maybe there's a connection in the mind, not about the sexual intimacy, but the emotional intimacy of hand-holding. It's something we've done with each other while I was in labour, while walking downtown eating ice cream on our anniversary date, while watching TV together, while driving in the car, while watching our kids play at the beach. It's such a simple thing. As familiar as your favorite old sweater. Maybe that's why it would seem so loaded with symbolism. Mr. intuition is the only person I'm interested in walking through life with, hand in hand. If it seems to me that he wants to do this with someone else, it raises some concerns for me. I'm fine with it as long as I know what's going on with it. If it's just part of foreplay, or a friendly hand squeeze as everyone basks in the afterglow, or if it's something that sexually turns someone on...I'm fine with that. But if it seems to me that there's some emotional "drifting" going on, I just think it needs to be dealt with. If we were looking to expand our emotional relationship into a triad (or whatever), then hand-holding would be ok.