[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

Welcome to the hot seat!!

Thanks, I think it'll be fun.

What got you interested in swinging, Dynamar?

I started doing research after I had a bi-sexual encounter with an acquaintance. She is involved in an open marriage, and told me all about her bi-sexuality and her relationships. My research soon brought me here, then Swing Lifestyle, and finally Swappernet. I figured out that I'd long been doing things that danced around the perimeter of the lifestyle... and it all just felt right to me.

What does the name 'Dynamar' mean anyway?

Good question! Dynamar is sort of my own personal 'alter ego'... the single bi-sexual superheroine. The 'Mar' part is a permutation of my first name.

If you were to find yourself in a relationship-- Do you think swinging would continue to be a part of your life?

I certainly didn't get involved in lifestyle activities to 'find a mate.' However if I became involved in a serious relationship, I think I definitely would want swinging to be a part of it. Guess, I'll cross that bridge if and when I come to it.

Since you are a single female, do you have to fight couples off with a stick?

One would think so judging by the number of couples who say that is what they seek, wouldn't you? However, my experience has been quite the opposite. Yes, there are a few couples I've had to beat off with a stick, mostly because they are far too aggressive and/or clingy, and want me to quit my job, move in with them and become their personal concubine! (And I'm not exaggerating by much!)

I do get a lot of mail, that is true. And I feel like I'm open and friendly to a great number of people. After that, because I don't ever want to be viewed as a 'pushy single', I leave the ball in their court to initiate further communication and ultimately ask me for a meet.

Nobody really talks about the down side of being a single female in the lifestyle. For me one negative is that I don't really care to be a newbie couple's "swinging training wheels"... I need to see that a couple is on solid ground before I continue, and oftentimes they must not be, because they just fade away.When you think about it though... this can also be a positive, since I don't want to get involved in any couple's drama, and I think my M.O. definitely helps keep that to a minimum.

Best swinging experience thus far?

I guess I'll have to say that first time with my female friend. Still, by far, the hottest thing I've been involved in. I wrote about it elsewhere here in a thread about fisting.