Sorry New2, I'm inclined to agree with everyone else! There's something about deep passionate kissing - experiencing it OR watching it - that just makes me weak at the knees. We used to have the no-kissing rule, too. But I think we were looking for boundaries to set up...just so we'd have them! As someone had suggested in another thread, I think we just watched Pretty Woman one too many times.
But after we'd been in it a while with a few experiences under out belt, we realized that it wasn't the act that defined betrayal, but the intent behind it. After that, we loosened up a bit and the rules went out the window. As long as we could both go into an encounter 'on the same page', knowing fully what was in each other's hearts, we found that being given carte blanche as far as sex play went was much more exciting than feeling like we had given one another a script to follow, or a rule book to lug along with us. We just kinda pared down the 'rule book' to a simple "I'm not going to do anything that I think would hurt you." As long as we both promised this and believed one another's promise, and of course ensured that we didn't break our promises, everything was just fine.