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New2theSwingSet · 08-30-2005, 04:01 PM

When my wife and i first started discussing some boundaries about what we wanted to do with other people, or what we thought might not be good for us... we talked about kissing the other people we were with. Specifically kissing on the lips, to us it seemed unneccesary, moreover it was something that we felt was more intimate between us and didnt really have much role to play with other partners in the bedroom. The people we play with can enjoy us and we can enjoy them but we dont need to kiss each other to get the pleasure we desired.

The few people we played with understood this and were quite happy to just have sex and not the kissing. But we've been to places where alot of swingers were and it seemed even when they were just being introduced they would lean in and kiss on the lips, sometimes a lot deeper then i would have expected. Like it was just a greeting formality. I mentioned it to my wife and she had noticed it as well, and suggested we consider taking the no-kissing rule off the list. Now i'm comfortable when meeting someone, or we're already friends, to share a kiss on the cheek, since its got no intimacy to it. but i guess i want to find out how much of a role kissing plays during the whole swinging experience. Our no-kissing policy isnt set in stone, but since we're new, we previously didnt think it made much difference.

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If kissing is the new way of shaking hands, then it's no wonder i didn't make it through that last job interview very well.

08-30-2005, 04:01 PM	#1 (permalink)
New2theSwingSet Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 10 Location: Ontario Status: Married Male Swing Lifestyle Name:New2TheSwingSet	is Kissing Required When my wife and i first started discussing some boundaries about what we wanted to do with other people, or what we thought might not be good for us... we talked about kissing the other people we were with. Specifically kissing on the lips, to us it seemed unneccesary, moreover it was something that we felt was more intimate between us and didnt really have much role to play with other partners in the bedroom. The people we play with can enjoy us and we can enjoy them but we dont need to kiss each other to get the pleasure we desired. The few people we played with understood this and were quite happy to just have sex and not the kissing. But we've been to places where alot of swingers were and it seemed even when they were just being introduced they would lean in and kiss on the lips, sometimes a lot deeper then i would have expected. Like it was just a greeting formality. I mentioned it to my wife and she had noticed it as well, and suggested we consider taking the no-kissing rule off the list. Now i'm comfortable when meeting someone, or we're already friends, to share a kiss on the cheek, since its got no intimacy to it. but i guess i want to find out how much of a role kissing plays during the whole swinging experience. Our no-kissing policy isnt set in stone, but since we're new, we previously didnt think it made much difference. *** If kissing is the new way of shaking hands, then it's no wonder i didn't make it through that last job interview very well.