Wife was virgin when we got married. I (M) had several grilfriends and had a few sexual encounters and experiences. Since we got married we have been faithfful to each other and have not cheated.
The temptation to cheat diminished when we started to consider swinging. We now believe that the lifestyle provides the way for both husband and wife to enjoy more than one sexual partner, avoid boredom in the bedroom and enrich the sexual experience without any sense of guilt.
Since our marriage is secure we are able to discuss openly among the two of us what would it be like to swap mates with another couple that we met and liked. We can talk freely about swapping mates in bed to enjoy sexual intercourse with her/him.
So, all in all we do not see our swinging lifestyle having anything to do with the past sexual experiences. Perhaps we as human beings are innately nonmonogamous and require multiple partners to fullfill our true sexual desires, wants and needs.
RM
