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Originally Posted by BradAndJanet Then, talk at length with your wife about what she wants, why she wants it, how you will be involved, how you feel about it, etc. Ask her to tell you how it will improve your relationship, or at least not hurt it, for example. Find out, if you don't know, how she and her ex started swinging, why they did and whether it contributed to their breakup.
Come back and ask your questions here. There are a lot of people who will share their advice and experiences with you.
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Excellant advice!! I would want to know why she wants to be alone with another man? Did she do that when her and her first husband were swinging. Plus, hasn't she had opportunities to know what it like to be with a different man alone? Like in dating .... in meeting her first husband.... in meeting you. There have been plenty of opportunities to be "alone" with a man. I know I have had them and we swing now because we like to see each other enjoy sex. We NEVER swing alone or in separate rooms. What's the point in that?
Do let us know how it goes. You have gotten lots of advice here so take advantage of it. Maybe you can get her to read this board too and find out for herself the pros and cons of what can happen.
Mrs Spoomonkey