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Originally posted by LIZA:
I don't think you will find expereinced swingers at a club with the same issues. |
Have you ever been to an on-premise swinger club?
Things are very different when you haven't had the opportunity to pick the people in the room with you. Also, soft swinging does make a difference as well. There is no chance of contact or of worry about the guy pleasing your wife better than you do, because rules have already been set against that.
This is an issue I've seen everywhere. They may not say they mind, but actions speak louder than words. I've seen it in many instances. A lot of guys don't even realize they will have a hard time with having other guys around until they are in that situation.
I've seen it at swinger clubs and I've seen it with gangbangs. We set one up for me as a birthday present. The guys all THOUGHT they'd be fine but yet they get in the situation and it's another story. 2 of the 5 could barely get it up at all.
I don't think it has a lot to do with being insecure even. I think it's just one of those things. Luckily, my hubby has no problem with other guys in the room, not sure what would happen if one of those guys tried something on him.. that might change things a little...lol.
Liza, I think you make too many assumptions based on the limited experience you have had. There are many situations that are very hard to predict until you are in those situations.
Julie
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