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Originally Posted by Paramour2_99 You should recognize that swinging is wrong,,,,point blank. |
Swinging IS wrong for couples who are not right for it. It takes a lot of introspection and communication to make the leap from fantasy to swinging. However, if you have the type of relationship that can handle it, swinging is a healthy, exciting enhancement to an already blessed and fulfilling marriage*
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Originally Posted by Paramour2_99 Don't come to this forum expecting understanding. |
Actually, James - that is exactly what you get here. Except for the occassional pharisee, you will not find judgement or condemnation. We save our harshest words for those who, through the guise of "swinging", put others in physical or emotional risk (see various threads on cheaters... I think they tend to get the brunt of it... People who lie to their spouses and sneak around behind their backs - those types...).
As for the original question, as a couple you have to establish boundaries that you are BOTH comfortable with. She needs to accept your comfort zones and honor those. Without doing so, swinging can be disasterous.
Spoomonkey
*by marriage I mean commited relationship