[starlinn]

Do you think having a big heart is something you seek in your play partners?
We definatly look for someone who has compassion for others. It is important to know how people feel about those in their life. We look for people who look at difficult relationships with a non judgmental view.

If so, what first clues you in to this characteristic in bifems who you and your husband are considering playing with?
I would say how they have handled relationships in their past. When getting to know someone, it is important to know that they have taken a past relationship that went bad, and looked at their glass half full, and have learned to move on from it. If they show any animosity towards past relationships, that clues me in on how they may feel about us, if a relationship continues. For example, if they said their ex was a horrible pig, that their death would be a benifit to the world...we would have a problem with that. If they said that they have moved on to bigger and better things, and hope that their ex has a great life..well, we admire that.

If having a big heart isn't that important in play partners, what things do you look for?

Besides the normal stuff, like alot of questions about my hubby, no interest in me, BIG turn off. We look for someone we can have an intellegent conversation with, someone who does not seem clingy, or who understands that we have a life that we need to live, and our lifestyle is not top priority. We do not like drunks! We want to remember the experience, and we also want those who are with us to remember it also.


Thank you for the questions!